The Lace Curtain: How Feminism Became the New Iron Curtain
There is something called “the Lace Curtain.” What I quote below, excerpts from Warren Farrell’s book Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, shows the Lace Curtain to be a wall of censorship. The Lace Curtain is not just censorship—it is a programmed mindset. Those who live in the Anglosphere carry the Lace Curtain mindset. It is very different from a mentality rooted in nationalism or religion. The closest comparison would be Communism.
Everyone asks, “Since Communism and dictatorships have been shown to be huge failures everywhere they are tried, why are politicians of free nations still in awe of these systems? Why do they want to revive socialism and its later evolutions of Communism and dictatorship?”
While it is true that Communism and dictatorships fail, and that almost everyone suffers, the key is this: one group wins big under Communism and dictatorships. Who? Politicians, of course! Politicians lose all the time in a free country, becoming hated, forgotten, with no statues built in their honor. But in a dictatorship, there will be statues everywhere, and the politician gets all the power.
The same is true of Feminism. It does little good to write long essays on why Feminism fails, why Matriarchy hurts men, and so on. What matters is that it enthrones women. Women have no reason to question Feminism, naturally. Men begin questioning Matriarchy only when they notice the long pattern of pain and injustice inflicted upon them.
I have often mentioned “The Way.” Go to school. Get a girlfriend. Marry her. Get a career. Buy a house. Get two dogs. Have several kids. Own two cars. Success is measured by how far along you are on this track. A man with a girlfriend is seen as more “progressed in life” than one without. One who went to school is seen as more “progressed in life” than one who didn’t—even if the dropout is wealthier, like Bill Gates or Steve Jobs.
If you deviate from this track—by following your passion, pursuing your dream, living for pleasure, or becoming financially free—you are condemned as a “loser.” At first, they assume this “loser” stage is temporary. Soon, they expect you will be back on the track to the wife, house, wage-slave career, and so on. In reality, one must disguise himself as following “The Way” while secretly doing what he truly wants. If not, he risks losing his job, facing social condemnation, and enduring countless stigmas.
The Lace Curtain is the veil over your eyes that hides the truth. Men begin to tear at the Lace Curtain only after repeated manipulation and pain force them to. Women, however, unconsciously keep the Lace Curtain over their eyes as long as possible. This is why talking to women about the Lace Curtain is fruitless. It is as pointless as telling Stalin why Communism is bad. To him, it is good. Why would he care?
But what if your own mind became your enemy? What if you couldn’t trust it anymore? What if your mind kept pushing you into the jaws of the beast, toward financial and legal destruction? That is how men live under the spell of the Lace Curtain. Men feel they must marry, must buy a house by a certain age, must have a girlfriend at another age, and so on. Look at the absurd costs of engagement rings, lavish weddings, stay-at-home spouses, and the family court system. Look at the divorce laws—where women are handled with velvet gloves while men are struck with spiked fists.
To those outside the Lace Curtain, the stories of men sound strange, mysterious, even horrifying. Yet these nightmares are imprinted deep inside the minds of men trapped behind the Curtain. There is no escape.
Sex and love are powerful. Rousseau even tried to make them the foundation of his utopia. The Lace Curtain is that society, but politicians and crusaders are not driven by love—they want power.
What if marriage, instead of being a vessel of peace, love, and stability, became an instrument of plunder? Politics is the cancer of society, and political crusades are the passion of mediocrities. If love becomes poisoned by politics, then love itself becomes the State’s means of power.
Do not be surprised. Nationalism is simply the “love of country” twisted to send men to war and work harder. Politicians are not above twisting love and romance into weapons of manipulation. Natural emotions have become the tools of greed.
The rise of men’s rights blogs in Lace Curtain nations—mostly the Anglosphere—is part of a great transition. Consider the shift from Nice Guy to Don Juan. As a Nice Guy, discovering Don Juan created a crisis for you, which took time to accept. Similarly, tearing away from the Lace Curtain creates pain.
Our minds are programmed under the Lace Curtain. The program is so vicious that when an error threatens the Curtain’s worldview, the mind instantly invents new reasons to reinforce it. For example, when confronted with high divorce rates, a young man might say, “Ah, those men weren’t in love like I am. I’ll make my wife happy. Divorce won’t happen to me.”
Defeating such a self-reinforcing mindset requires painful reprogramming. And pain is the Curtain’s second-best defense, since most people will choose pleasure over pain. Women won’t even attempt reprogramming. Most men won’t either. The few who do are brave.
When this painful reprogramming begins, the man often sounds like he is bashing women. But the “woman bashing” is not hatred—it is his only release from the pain. Men’s rights websites are filled with this phenomenon. Women dismiss them as “angry males,” but these men are not writing for the world—they are writing for themselves. They are reprogramming their own minds.
This is why men’s rights forums feel like echo chambers. They are less about debate and more about being a salve for the bleeding mind, as it is cut up, re-arranged, and freed from the Lace Curtain.
The reprogramming process takes two to three years. That is why most men’s rights blogs vanish after that time. There is no longer a need to write—the program has been removed.
There are two types of men in the Anglosphere: those who live under the Lace Curtain, and those who have freed themselves from it. The former vastly outnumber the latter, but with age, more men break free. By their 80s, most men no longer live under the Curtain, though few in their 20s escape it.
Censorship under the Lace Curtain is not merely active—it is reality itself. Disagreeing with Feminism is not tolerated, not because of overt censorship, but because Feminism is believed to be the truth. When you speak against it, to many, you are not disagreeing—you are speaking outside reality itself.
Farrell’s Description of the Lace Curtain
- The power of feminists to allow only a feminist perspective to be aired came to be labeled the “Lace Curtain.”
- The Iron Curtain shut out opinions that threatened Communism. The Lace Curtain shuts out opinions that threaten Feminism.
- In an Iron Curtain country, capitalist-bashing was the norm. In a Lace Curtain country, man-bashing is the norm.
- In an Iron Curtain country, criticizing Communism could cost you your job. In a Lace Curtain country, criticizing Feminism can cost you your job—especially in government, media, or education.
- Communism achieved censorship formally, through revolution. Feminism achieved censorship informally, by monopolizing gender politics, defining terms, creating data, and becoming the only “legitimate” interpreter of reality.
- Communists came to power by claiming workers were exploited by capitalists. Feminists came to power by claiming women were exploited by men. Both movements defined an enemy and positioned themselves as saviors of the oppressed.
- Once Communism and Feminism framed themselves as progressive and morally superior, censorship could be justified as “morally necessary.”
Written by Pook at SoSuave forum
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