What It Really Means to Be a Man in Today’s World
There is a prize for the person who correctly answers this question: What is a man?
When asked what they want in a guy, women say simply, “A man!” But alas, real men are becoming more and more rare these days. Women are tired of sensitive wimps who have no backbones. One woman even wrote a song about the subject: Where Have All the Cowboys Gone?
So, what is a man? How should he act? Decades and centuries ago, the question was nonsense. But today, in our feminized culture (this may be more in America than in other countries), most of us have been raised to believe there is something inherently wrong with being a man and acting the way a man should act. No wonder males don’t know how to act around women! No wonder websites like these exist!
Indeed, I embarked on this mystery to find out the answer. Several women were bunched up in a group, gossiping and yapping about cute boys, fashion, and relationships—i.e., nothing. This behavior extends to women of all cultures (and even different animal species—cows group together, moo, gnaw on grass, and take notice of bulls brave enough to approach).
I approached. “How are you, ladies!! I am the Pook.”
A woman squealed. “Oh! It’s a Pook!” The others squealed in unison.
Once the ladies calmed themselves after being in the presence of a Pook, I asked them, “Ladies! Do tell me, what do you define as a man?”
With devilish tongues, the women answered:
- “A man is someone sensitive to me.”
- “A man is the guy who will take care of my needs.”
- “A man is the one that is in tune with my feelings.”
- “A man is one who doesn’t have an ego.”
- “A man is the guy who will sit and watch chick flicks all day with me.”
- “A man is the guy who will go shopping with me.”
- “A man is the guy who will share all his feelings with me.”
Such are the common answers! The males listen and try to become what the women say. They are constantly declared “sweet” and “wonderful” and “nice”—oh, so nice. Mothers and older women are proud of them and say, “If I were younger, I would go for you!”
Poor Nice Guy! The women his own age avoid him like the plague and jump for the jerks. The Nice Guy becomes an emotional tampon to be used and discarded. He listens to the woman vomit her feelings about men and bleed her boyfriend problems onto him. He listens with baited hope when he hears, “Oh, why can’t guys be like you? You listen and understand.” Then she turns around and gets abused by another jerk! The cycle repeats again and again.
Why are women acting this way?
They are simply acting as women do, as is their nature. The problem is not with them—it is with guys. We are afraid to embrace OUR nature: that of being a man. In a culture that sees manhood as predatory, oppressive, and uncouth, we hide it. By doing so, we hide our sexuality.
Do I mean rock-hard abs and rippling muscles? That’s not what women truly find sexy (it’s a contributing factor, not the core). What they are drawn to is a type of personality—someone dependable (has backbone), someone successful (has ambition), and someone decisive (has charge).
Nice Guys have no backbone because they think women are fragile creatures who will break under confrontation. They reveal no ambition because they fear being seen as arrogant. They avoid being decisive for fear of being labeled oppressive.
Men drift into two poles of thought: the Nice Guy and the Jerk. Both blame each other:
“You ruin women with your lack of commitment and unappreciative nature,” says the Nice Guy. “You spoil women with your endless listening ear and stupid caring attitude,” replies the Jerk.
One side says, “The Jerk is the way to go—ceaseless sex! Evolution demands it.” The other says, “The Nice Guy is the way to go—glorious relationship! Society demands it.”
But both are wrong.
The Nice Guy shouts, “I will not abuse you. I am sweet and good. Based on that alone, you should date me.” But when he talks on a date, the conversation turns into Oprah. Women run for the hills when they hear his declarations of love.
Eventually, the Nice Guy becomes bitter, turns into a Jerk, and focuses on seduction tactics. Time passes, and what was once fun becomes meaningless. Back to being nice. He feels stuck switching between Nice Guy and Jerk and cries, “Why can’t I just be myself!?”
The answer? Just be a man.
A man is someone who is not afraid of his testosterone. He follows passion in his life—passion for goals beyond chasing women. After childhood, there are true winners and losers. A man wants to win at what he does and does not apologize for his desires.
Women are to enhance your life, not to be your life. Don’t spend your time chasing girls—invest it in your passions. When you do, you will have what women want: ambition, decisiveness, backbone, kindness, stability, and confidence.
A man has character, deep convictions, and passion. If you cannot command respect, you cannot attract love. Respect comes from strength—emotional, moral, and physical.
Be a man, and you will be in high demand—in career, in life, and with women.
If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for everything.
Written by Pook at SoSuave forum
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