Why Some Marriages Fail and What Men Must Understand
Why some marriages fail?
The problem is not marriage; it is the woman you marry. BE PICKY. Figure out YOURSELF and what YOU WANT, and GO GET IT. Aim for similar life views. (Many kids in college aren't doing this, and we know what happens to them...)
Often, the woman gets married too young. All her girlfriends are going to parties, having fun, and she is stuck with a husband and duties. Oh, if she could only have fun!
There is a feminine mindset (in both men and women, but most frequently in women) that marriage is a great achievement, as if they are the only ones doing it. A woman considers that her getting married means she is being âsuccessfulâ; she is moving up that female aristocracy ladder. Now she gets to have a wedding and be âprincessâ for a day!
The guy marries because he is tired... so tired... He cannot stand being single and cannot endure the trials of life. He jumps at it as an armadillo does in front of my car when I flatten it!
Be a Man! Be independent! Follow that passion of divinity within you to satisfy your ambition and idealism.
Many guys cannot do this. They think like women and so die never being men.
(The divorce rate was highest during World War IIâyes, that âgreatest generation.â Society is NOT changing; we share more things with the past than we would dare admit.)
Who Invented Marriage?
I have to disagree with Jake Steed on this one (first time for everything!). MEN created the institution of marriage.
It is common to think of weddings and marriages as one and the same. But they are separate and have different origins. The wedding is merely a societal event, a celebration. It was more of a community event (remember how closely knit communities were back then, how the community was all). To say that weddings were invented by women, I would agree. But marriage? No.
Women are entirely sexual creatures. Turning from this present widening gyre, the falcon can no longer hear the falconer. The feminists have sought revolution, but women cannot create revolutionâonly chaos. Thus, anarchy has been unleashed upon the world.
The unfaithfulness of women is nothing new. Simply read the introduction to Arabian Nights. The Sultan, realizing the unfaithfulness of all women, decides to sleep with one per night and kill her the next day.
The savior of women comes and tells âstoriesâ to the Sultan. He doesnât kill her because he wants to know how the story ends. Thus, women survive through the stories. We make the storiesâour idealizations and allâmake tales of the woman. Dante turns Beatrice into The Divine Comedy. A poet turns a woman into poetry. A painter turns her into paintings. And so on.
But the point is that women, being entirely sexual, are locked within a prism of society. They would freely sleep with any guy of their fancy, but the âslutâ and âreputationâ factors all come in. Thanks to this, women are bounded.
Men created marriage to bind the woman to him. The deeper you go in the religions and ancient philosophies, one will be struck by the âmisogyny.â But there is truth in it.
âNo! Women created marriage to tie up the Man!â
Women wouldnât need marriage. They have sex to use. And what do women want? Either they want pleasure, or they want to be a mother. Marriage has nothing to do with either. Women can leash guys just through sex. (Thus, many women do not see marriage; they merely see the wedding. When you start to talk to her about the âmarriage/relationship,â she will start talking to you about the wedding!)
- It is women more than men who cheat (though, to be fair, this might be because they have more opportunities).
- It is women more than men who initiate divorce.
Many women canât stand it. Monogamy is more against their instincts than ours. No one would deny institutions like the state, science, and all are MALE-created. But so is marriage. Women are like the centaurs; they ride the beast through this world. They must be bounded.
Societal Marriage
The legal laws concerning marriage nowadays are awful and need to change immediately.
But let us not confuse LEGAL MARRIAGE with SOCIETAL MARRIAGE. LEGAL MARRIAGE is whatever the government says. SOCIETAL MARRIAGE comes from the community, a public face on the union.
In older times, religious laws (that formed the community) would, of course, be used to âlawfullyâ wed the couple. If you found a woman that you love and stay with her, that is basically marriage.
LEGALLY it may not be, but it is marriage.
Do not confuse the legal problems with marriage itself. Having a life partner can be very rewarding.
Saying, âI wonât get married,â but will have a life partner means, âI wonât get the governmentâs legal claws into me, but I will have a life partner, to marry (used in the oldest sense).â
You guys wouldnât be happy just going from one chick to another forever. Remember, you do not live to Don Juan; you Don Juan to live!
Written by Pook at SoSuave forum
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